In 2016 I stood up for my self and told my friend that I didn’t want her to be blunt and negative towards me, my family and every little imperfection she could seek out in me any longer.
I was hoping that by me opening up (after a 40-year friendship) it would give her a chance to acknowledge my story and perhaps mend it so our relationship could move on for another 40 years.
Unfortunately, she closed up and took it to heart. Funny how I have been copping the blunt and insensitive comments from her for 40 years, and when I finally speak up I’m the worst person in the world.
She turned my being brave and honest and allowing her space to improve our relationship into drama and back onto me which has quite possibly ruined a long standing friendship.
The question I ask you my fellow sisters is “Is it really worth the repercussions, if standing in your truth results in you looking like the bad guy and loosing a whole tribe of friends?”
I have asked my self this many times.
It took me ten years to work up the courage to speak up for my self, and I had considered all reactions before I did this. Though I didn’t expect so much pain and rejection.
I have come to the conclusion, that as living, breathing humans we must experience all kinds of emotions such as being happy, sad, excited, feeling nervous and having your heart feel pure joy and pure pain if we are to evolve and grow.
It is part of life as a human to feel these things, but if we can not live this life and feel these emotions without truth and loyalty to yourself then I believe we will become sick, spiteful, jealous, greedy, nasty, stern, cold, hard, rigid human beings.
I believe we must stand up for our truth no matter what the cost.
We must be certain of the ground that we stand on.
And we must only ever speak our truth from our hearts.
And what happens after that will be one of your greatest lessons in life.
I love my friends and I deeply miss them, but I am not happy to be treated with any less respect then I give them.
I’d love to hear from you, and how you deal with speaking your truth from your heart, or if this is something I can guide you through, learn more on my Mentoring page, and claim your complimentary discovery call.
Love and blessings Annie
To my Dearest Sisters and fellow Goddesses
My Christmas message is of a ‘not so nice’ personal experience but with a positive
When I was eight years old I was molested by a very close family member. This led me into a world where I was faced to make one of two choices.
One of those choices was to be a victim and allow that horrific experience to bring me down and lead me into a life of drugs, abuse, emotional issues and hatred.
The second choice was to accept, grow, heal, rise above the ‘story’ and be strong. Most of all to choose to not allow that story to win, get me down or ruin my life.
When my husband and I united, we both felt strongly about giving some of our money to an Australian charity and we chose Bravehearts. Braveheart’s mission is to educate to prevent child sexual assault for Australian children. Money goes towards educators going around to schools, and also counselling and support for children who have been abused and support for adults whom have ‘historical cases’ and may need counselling and support.
It gives me so much happiness and gratitude that our money actually helps these people,
and just maybe one child has been taught to know the warning signs and say ‘NO’ or tell their parent/carer.
If you have ever felt as though you would like to donate to a charity, Bravehearts would be an excellent choice.
Sexual abuse has a massive negative impact on our society and can tare’s good family’s apart.
This Christmas and for the new year please be a part of the revolution to prevent and stop sexual abuse.
Donate securely online at bravehearts.org.au or you can Direct Deposit to Bravehearts Gift Account BSB: 034-064 Account: 304025
I send out a healing message of love, light and hope to all sexual assault victims and survivors.
And I would like to wish you all a beautiful Christmas and an exciting, happy and safe new year.
Love and many blessings Annie
Before I even realised that I was a seeker, a spiritual learner and a being who was so much more then flesh and bone, I had only a very small insight to the word and meaning of gratitude.
I vaguely remember my elders saying to me “just be grateful for what you've got’.
All the same it seems to be a popular phrase, which has not ever really been taken seriously and for its true and very powerful meaning and use.
The more grateful we are for EVERYTHING in our lives, often the more we have come our way. Perhaps this was lost with the art of prayer?
In my experience when we live a life practicing full gratitude, we receive more. It also makes us feel good when we experience the actions of gratitude. We create a positive and uplifting shift in our lives when we can master gratitude and throw out negativity.
Being grateful is the number one recipe for loving or at least being at ease with yourself.
On a physical level, I for instance have some visible veins on my legs, some are from working 20 years on my feet on hard wet commercial kitchen floors. Some are from having two children, some may even be hereditary. I had forever hated my legs, and I truly believed that they where fat and undesirable.
Though when I began to turn that around by saying and thinking and feeling gratitude, I now occasionally wear shorts and shorter skirts. I now wear a swimsuit with out board shorts on.
Because I am grateful for these two fine legs that keep me standing tall, and take me where ever it is I command them to go and that allow me to drive so that I have independence and the ability to go and do what ever I please. My husband even tells me that he loves my legs. I am so grateful for my perfect legs.
Perhaps you you could fake it till you make it! I did and I'm loving these pipes now.
Gratitudes can go on forever, and the more you are grateful, the more goodness you shall receive.
If you or a loved one is travelling, you may send a prayer of safety. Don’t forget to use your thanks and gratitudes when you or your loved one has arrived safety.
Once upon a time in my family, we said a prayer of thanks for our meals. This was a prayer to God. I’m not saying that you have to say a prayer as such, but wouldn’t it be nice if we could acknowledge the cook and the simple goodness of having food on the table to eat.
Prayer time at the table is out-dated in most families now, and I think this is a shame.
I tend to think that if our children could take it in turns to say a small thanks and show gratitude to the cook and for the meal, this would be setting a great foundation of teaching our children the simple yet rewarding pleasures of gratitude, and in return they receive a meal and please the cook, and if you're inclined, you will also be giving God the message of gratitude.
My non religious prayer for a night time meal goes like this.
“I would like to send my heart felt gratitude and thanks for (insert cooks name) for cooking this wholesome meal tonight. I would also like to say my gratitudes for being able to share this meal in the company of my beloved family and or friends or (partners name)”
In a world of dog eat dog and man versus man, its any wonder that our men can feel they are under so much pressure to stand up infallibly, and constantly be ‘The Man’?
In my experience men quietly go about their emotional business and battle it out on their own. My question is ‘who set this up’? Who said that a man had to go quietly on their own, handling their emotional-status and covering their bad days, all the while being ‘Mr keep it all together, go to work , pay the bills, be strong for my family, don’t let anyone down’?
Perhaps it was a male-made stigma set up to protect the ego? Perhaps it was a necessity for the overall survival and balance of the household, I mean what household could handle both sexes having PMS all at the same time? In my house this would make for an extremely volatile cocktail of energetic dramas.
Anyhow, who's to say that men don’t have monthly emotional ups and downs, aren't we (both men and woman) predominately made up of water? Keeping in mind that the ‘monthly’ Moon cycles pull the oceans back and forth and control the tides on earth, and are known to have an effect on women's cycles and emotions. Then why can’t the moon have effect on men also?
We are all sharing this life together and most have equal responsibilities. It’s just that in this society it isn’t seen as so bad for a woman to ask for help, or fall into a crying heap at the end of a challenging week at work.
When do we allow our men to fall in to a heap at the end of hard week without calling it a break down?
As a mother, aunty, wife, niece and sister of a beautiful assortment of delightfully interesting, strong, sensitive, brilliant, soft, kind, gentle men, I am standing up right now for our men and holding my hand, heart and full support out for them.
We need to let our men know that we are here for them.
We strongly need to listen to them, and in my experience, when a man says its black and white, well honey, its black and white, not purple or pink or a shade of lavender.
Don’t complicate things. Just be there for him, listen to him and take interest in what makes him smile. Tell him he matters, and that you appreciate the wonderful work he does. Give him your time, your shoulder to lean on and your ear. You will then begin to crack open years of conditioning and hardening of one of our most valuable human gifts, our companions, our champions and our best mates.
Love and Blessings