Why does the title "stepmother" conjure up such a bad name?
I am going to be blunt, I absolutely hate the title "stepmother"!
I am positive for me that the stigma of “the stepmother” stems from fairy tales of the wicked stepmother in tales of Snow White and Hansel and Gretel.
I was brought up by a “step mother” and although she is a gentle and giving soul, there was always a grudge attached to that story, that’s until I myself became a stepmother.
As I sit here and write I look back over the past six years and breathe a massive sigh of relief that finally the struggles and torment of blending two families is finally sorted and there is peace.
My advice to a step mothers is:
When they are at our house I cook for them, clean up after them, wash dirty towels, shop and do all the things a mother does. I don’t get a birthday card or a mother’s day card from them.
I deeply love and support my husband and with that comes doing the best I can with his children.
I am not their mother, they have a good mother and she does a fine job.
I am the woman who loves their father like crazy and supports him and vows to love and look after him until death do us part.
It is super important to set your boundaries. Remember everyone’s situation is different and your love, commitment and support as a couple will allow the children to feel security and love, so you all can blend and be a well-adjusted new age family but do not sell your soul, they won’t appreciate it until they become step parents.
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