Make Love, make true connections with your eyes.
One of the most powerful ways to communicate is through the truth in our eyes.
Traditionally we are taught to use words to express our feelings, wants, needs and desires, often disregarding or not noticing the power of communication that sits on the sill of the window to our internal truth and soul.
I wonder how much we are missing out on by not making eye contact.
In these past few years, phones and technology have replaced holding hands with holding a phone, and replaced talking to each other with staring into a device.
I want you to think about this and be honest with yourself. When your partner, children, friends or work colleges are actually talking to you (you know face to face using your vocal chords kind of talking), do you or do they use eye contact? Do you or they stop what they are doing on the device look up and at you and make eye contact?
I have been guilty of being “too busy” to stop and look at my children and listen, but thankfully, I was conscious enough to notice that after a while they stopped coming to me with their stories and questions.
So I pulled myself up! I now STOP and LOOK and LISTEN to my children, no matter how busy I am, and because of this our bond has grown. They share with me the most fantastic stories and personal highs and lows and we have wonderful talks on all topics.
It is good old fashion manners when someone is speaking to you to stop what you are doing and look at them, right?
It is also humanly, emotionally, intelligently, sensorily important to stop what you are doing and look up, make eye contact and listen. This is how we survive and stay connected not dis-connected.
Did you know you can express so many emotions just through your eyes? You can have cold distant eyes, sad eyes, happy eyes, lustful, longing and hungry eyes and the list goes on.
Next time you and your partner have some spare time to make love or get down and get jiggy with it or whatever it is you do, start off with an age old Tantric method of eye gazing.
Simply put, this means to sit close and opposite each other and with no words gaze into each other eyes. Start off with 2 minutes build up to 5 minutes, longer if you wish.
This may sound like a simple and silly thing to do but believe me it is very powerful.
Sometimes you giggle, you may cry, you may feel the love pouring from your partner, you may see something you didn’t expect. You may feel uncomfortable. Who knows, just give it a try. When you begin to practice eye gazing with your partner regularly you will begin to understand the power of communication without words, and it is very powerful. With love and patience eye gazing will bring you to a new level of connectedness.
Make more eye contact with everyone you communicate with, and let me know how you get on.
Don’t let technology take away our natural senses, let’s stay truly connected.
Love and many blessings
Late in 2017 a friend and colleague asked me an ‘out of the blue’ question which was: “What do you think 2018 is going to be all about Annie?”
Without giving it a thought and with my hand on my heart I replied, ‘the Self’.
At first, I was curious as to why I would say such a thing, given I’d just written a book in which my purpose was to help people, so how could I easily say that the next year was going to be all about ‘the Self’.
One month into 2018 I totally get it.
I had way too many things on the go last year and have been pushing myself in so many different directions, so the only way forward is to take a step back.
I am taking a year off readings and mentoring to reboot my energy levels, nurture myself, find my sexual and creative mojo, start to write my new book, find my feet and my balance and come back guns a blazing!
I mean what kind of hypocrite would I be if I didn’t take my own advice, and just kept pushing through?
So, I’ve started my year of re-energizing with an amazing weekend spent with my husband and friends, four wheel driving in the high country, getting high on eucalyptus, bathing in the pristine waters at the beginning of the Murray River, cooling off in the Snowy River, living, laughing and loving myself back to me.
How are you going? Are you still pushing yourself through? Have you penned any time out for yourself this year?
For more inspiration and tips on how to create the life you desire buy my book, and I’ll continue to share my wisdom in this monthly newsletter and on Facebook.
Love and many blessings
Have you ever tried to drive your car just by looking in the rear view mirror? Or what about driving while looking at the sky? That's ridiculous and impossible, right? Sure, so why do we sometimes do these things with our lives?
Give yourself a minute to think, and then come up with an honest answer to this question: how much of my time do I spend thinking about the past and/or daydreaming about the future?
This is not to say that we shouldn't dream or plan ahead. Nor does it mean we can't enjoy remembering great times we've had, or learn from previous mistakes. What I'm talking about here is our tendency to hang on to stuff from the past or fret and worry about what might happen in the future. Neither of these pastimes is very positive, and in this article I'd like to explore some techniques for reducing these unproductive habits.
Let's begin with letting stuff go from our pasts. I like to use the analogy of walking down the road of life, and along the way we pick up and carry various things. Some are useful, and others are big, awkward, heavy or toxic packages that we struggle to drag along with us. We can actually choose to put some of these things down, and continue our journey with a lighter load.
Guilt, regret, anger, resentment and so on are some of the most corrosive emotions we can feel. In relation to things that have happened in the past, they are also completely useless, and cannot change what has already occurred. Most importantly, they take up a lot of brain space that we could otherwise use to enjoy the present and create a fabulous future.
Here are some simple ideas for letting this stuff go:
OK, now that we've let go of a whole lot of old garbage, we have space to create the future of our dreams. The trap to avoid here is thinking that something has to happen before we can be happy, slim, fit, successful, wealthy etc etc. You know the kind of thing: when I get a new car, then I'll be happy.....I'll start being more mindful of what I eat when I finish this project.....
Instead, we need to practice gratitude for where we are and what we have right now. This is one of the basics of moving forward with ease, and if we can be content in the present, we are better able to manifest the incredible things we desire in the future. Discontent is not conducive to creating positive outcomes.
The new year is a powerful time to take stock and define your goals. So now is a perfect time to do one or more of the following in preparation for this year of new beginnings:
These are only a few suggestions to make a start on the path to a more positive outlook, by freeing some brain space to live joyfully in the moment and create a magical future. Enjoy 2018 to the full!
Article by guest author Dallys Baker
As we quickly close in on the end of another year, my mind casts through the past months and I truly cannot believe what 2017 has given me.
For me 2017 has mainly been full of amazing highs, but of course I have experienced some lows.
What I have done in my journal is for each month of this year I have made two columns. One for the best thing about that month and one for the not so good thing about that month.
This is how it works. Under the best thing that happened write how that experience enriched your life. Under the not so good thing that happened I want you think about what lesson you may have learnt or perhaps something good actually came out of that negative experience?
Write that down. It may look like this.
I threw myself out of my comfort zone and took myself to Sydney and did a workshop on my own.
What did I learn or gain from this experience?
I realised that I can get around a city on my own and that it is good for my confidence and helps me grow to throw myself in to groups and workshops.
We had staffing issues at work which created stress.
What did I learn or gain from this experience?
I became wiser to people and what they say they can do and what they can do.
It is sweet to be trusting and think that everybody is as good hearted as you, though it is important not to beat yourself up when they let the team down.
Continue down through the months until you get to now. You may only get to the end of November and/or you may have forgotten some months, that doesn’t matter.
Now you are going to compile all the “What did I learn of gain from this experience?” answers and write a letter to yourself or a blurb. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE A WRITER to do this, you may want to dot point what you see.
For example, just by looking at January for me I can write this about myself.
My name is Annie and I know by throwing myself out of my comfort zone it boosts my confidence and enhances my experiences. I succeed when I hold fear, but face it head on.
I can still trust people, even when some people let me down. I have learnt not to take other peoples’ actions to heart.
This feels really good for me to read this about myself. I feel like in just one month I grew outwardly and inwardly.
When you read your blurb, letter or dot points back to yourself, you can get a true sense of who you have been for this entire year.
You will begin to see yourself in a different light and see your highlighted qualities shine through each month.
This is a perfect thing do over the holidays and before the new year. You may even like to go ahead and set up your columns for next year. Set some goals and intentions and realise that for every hiccup or negative experience something good may come from that.
Thank you for sharing 2017 with me, I honour you and your support
Don’t forget you can buy my book on line now. Goddess Walking is a perfect gift for you or anyone you know who needs a little boost and positive encouragement from love and truth.
Love and many blessings Annie
Have yourself a merry little Christmas xoxoxo
Have you ever had anybody you always thought would be there, but now they are not?
Be careful not assume that your nearest and dearest will always be there when you need them.
You came one day seeking for my warmth,
I was gone.
You called one day to get a fix of my light,
I was gone.
You felt hollow and your soul reached out to find me,
I was gone.
You didn’t tend to this flower,
You only watered me when you missed me,
Now I am gone, gone, gone.
You came by to say hi, but our rivers do not meet anymore.
You carelessly expected me, expected me, to be
Unexpectedly I evolved and ripened,
I became bravely independent and realised that we are far out of touch.
Just because someone has always been there doesn’t mean they always will be.
We must tend to our relationships and nurture the people we love regularly.
If you care enough for yourself and for the relationships that you have made, then take care enough of those relationships so it doesn’t leave you a beggar, wondering what you have done wrong.
Ask yourself these questions:
Or perhaps ask these questions:
This last one is a big one, from my experience don’t ever try to change a person to meet your needs, and don’t ever think that you can fix them or show them all of the wonderful things that you have done to grow, because everyone is different.
Sometimes, as much as it hurts, in order to grow graciously you must say goodbye.
For more on how to become more confident and learn simple ways to clear your mind, don’t forget that my book Goddess Walking will be available this November.
You can pre-order it at Animal Dreaming Publishing
Love and many blessings
This is a sneak peek from my new book "Goddess Walking" coming out soon!
I remember what it was like before I felt comfortable in my skin. Love making would be in very dim light or no light at all (and could you really call it ‘love making’ rather than ‘making out’?). I remember making one boyfriend turn away until I quickly dove under the sheets to hide myself, and God forbid if I needed to do a wee. This would have meant getting fully dressed under the covers before I stepped out. I remember thinking, ‘What if he sees my bottom?’ I’m also pretty sure my boyfriend had checked my bum out in jeans a few times before we got into bed together anyway!
Oh the silly games we play with ourselves, I mean really, what guy (who you already have in your bed with you) has ever knocked you back because he saw your naked bum. NO GUY, Annie... Thinking back on my life as a sexual being and about my past sexual experiences, I have a tapestry of emotions. Some of the memories make me blush, some make me cringe, some make me wish to God I’d never gone there, while some just make me laugh out loud.
In my experience, you pretty much know right from the first kiss if you have a connection with that person. It can be a purely physical connection or a deep-seated karmic connection, or it could start off physical and blossom into a well-balanced beautiful unity of love and tenderness. Or, you could already be emotionally connected and the sex comes later—there are so many variables. When you are with the right person everything on the sexual page runs like a well-oiled machine. It is almost like the act itself becomes a separate energy with its own set of rules.
When it is a new connection, with the right person, this energy adds that extra spring to your step and extra width to your smile. You almost become possessed by it and you do anything to get it. You do anything to meet up with your match and have hot, steamy, amazingly wonderful sex. When half an hour never seemed long enough to do anything before, you can now magically fit in a romp in the middle of your lunch hour. When you’ve had a massive week at work and you’re dead tired, a one-hour love-making session is a walk in the park—or should I say, can be done in the park? You move mountains, you rearrange deadlines, you do anything to get some more. Why? Because it is so much fun, it feels so good and it’s such a great hobby to have.
Forgiveness is an act that we do out of love for ourselves.
Forgiveness is something that you have either walked bravely towards or run a mile from at some stage in your life.
As I professed in a chapter titled ‘Forgiveness’ in my up and coming book ‘Goddess Walking”, I have a mixed bag of feelings when it comes to forgiveness and forgiving, especially when it comes to the unforgivable. Yes, that’s right, some things are unforgivable.
Which brings me to a six hour flight north-west of my home and a two-hour drive into the hinterlands of Bali, and a new-found tool for my survival kit.
It was the holy waters of Tirta Empul Tampaksiring-Gianyar Bali that brought me to the profound realisation that acceptance is a powerful self-agreement tool for releasing, letting go and finding deep and blissful inner peace.
You don’t have to go to the holy waters of Bali to allow yourself to feel acceptance, I will guide you now with some easy steps.
It doesn’t mean what has happened is right or wrong.
It doesn’t mean that you are giving in or giving up.
It doesn’t mean that you are allowing them to win, or that they have got away with it.
It simply means that you are letting it go and accepting that what has happened has happened and nothing can change that.
It means that you are going to put that heavy load down and stop carrying it around like a gaping wound.
It means that you will feel light and free and at peace with your past.
You can’t change that past.
You can’t change what people have done to you.
You change your future by accepting that what has been done is gone and by actively choosing your daily attitudes, your directions in life and your own path.
For more insight on acceptance you may like to have a one on one private session with me. Please go to my contact page to inquire.
Love and many blessings Annie
Once upon a time, a very long time ago, a young country girl took on an apprenticeship in cookery with the full intention of travelling far and wide. She dreamt of cobbled streets and unfamiliar faces, she hoped for untethered experiences and a passport full of foreign stamps.
This young county girl took her first step out of the nest towards her dreams of sky voyaging and moved one step closer to Tullamarine, even though it was to Canberra, it was still three hours closer to an Australian international airport.
The Canberra winter nipped at her bones and the long hot summer creeped in to test her strength. She was gaining more work experience to take with her on her travels and THEN she did something that changed the course of her life forever.
She didn’t get off at the earlier station and came right back home six months pregnant with a beautiful baby boy.
That was exactly 20 years ago on the first day of winter 1997.
This August 2017 I will be FINALLY taking my first overseas trip!
It has been a long time coming and I am so excited!
I once had a vivid dream that I was in a shop in Indonesia and I was in white buying a statue to bring home, I have feeling my dream is about to come true.
Until I write again for our September Secret Goddess Business newsletter, wish me luck.
Love and Blessings Annie
It is only she who needs to understand herself.
How on earth is anyone to be expected to ‘understand’ us when at times we hardly understand ourselves?
I wonder about you, how in tune are you with your body, your cycle, yourself?
Has anyone ever told you that being a female means that every single day of the month you are different?
You can wake with an entirely different chemical balance of hormones which triggers an entirely different physical, emotional and energetic reaction.
Meaning that what was good yesterday isn’t so great today.
Yes, my dear sisters, this does mean that YOU ARE NOT CRAZY AFTER ALL.
Are you like most of us and push through your monthly cycle? Or perhaps you are menopausal living each day in haze and struggle?
Why is it we push through each week before we have the time or the inkling we haven’t ‘checked in’ with ourselves? And before we realise our energy levels drop, we may get sick or have a dose of depression and wonder where the hell that came from.
This is what happened to me recently.
I had such a wonderful time in the first half of this year, hopping from city to city, organising this, helping with that, being Mrs Wonderful and pushing my body through ignoring my periods and then it all came crashing down!
I lost my spark for writing, working, laughing, making love, and didn’t much feel like doing anything but curl up under my fluffy blanket and denying that there is a world out there.
How to recognise the problem:
Easy steps to getting back on top
Walking outdoors is the best stress buster and feel good thing you can do with your body. Apart from sex that is, but it is no good having sex if you aren’t back in the feeling good space yet.
2. Seek help:
Find a good natural practitioner who may be able to suggest some supplements and/or vitamins to help your body back on track.
3. Talk to a trusted friend:
Sometimes we all need someone to listen to us, you always feel a lot better once you open up and talk to a good friend.
4. Honour your body:
The best advice I can offer here is follow your cycles. When you are bleeding take it easy, do less, command that you get extra help around the home-work or announce you’ll be doing a little less and allow your body to let go and your mind to go with a natural flow. After your menstrual week and for the following two weeks ramp up the action, get back on top of life and back in the saddle. Then the week before your period begin to slow it down again. Believe me you will feel amazing!
My book suggestion is a fantastic book written by Miranda Grey called ‘The Optimized Woman’. I purchased my copy from Book Depository.
This book is a deal changer for me and, I bet, for any woman riding the monthly gauntlet of a being a woman with a busy life. Miranda guides you through your monthly cycle so that you may live your lives as women, students, mothers, career women with ease and an understanding of your physical and emotional status at each day of the month.
Make sure you stay warm, eat well and love the skin you’re in.
The power of my tribe fills my heart with gratitude.
Let me ask you this:
If your diabetic son got his truck bogged in the back of whoop whoop with very little phone service and he'd carelessly forgotten his hypo kit ( which is food and sugar snacks in case of a diabetic hypo) and you were a two and half hours drive away from him, would you have a friend to call on for help?
Do you have a professional and trusted practitioner who you can open up too and she knows you so well that she can prescribe the perfect remedy and or suggest and guide you back to balance and health?
Do you have friends that love you and family that adore you?
How have I gathered such a trusted tribe of amazingly wonderful people?
It has taken some years, aside from my family of course, who have been with me all along.
It has taken me to stand in my truth and declare to the world what types of behaviour and people I will tolerate and what I won't.
It has taken trial and error with friendships, and all my relationships, to be able to emerge and feel loved, supported, correctly guided, and fully connected to a network of great souls who love me as I do them.
Think about your tribe for a minute, are they the friends and relationships that nurture you and your ideas, dreams and thoughts or fears and can support you in any of these ways, or are they in it just for themselves?
Are your friendships and professional relationships reciprocal in a communion of trust and support?
If not it may be time to reassess!
I love the latest saying that is floating around at the moment:
“Your vibe attracts your tribe”
Are you stuck in a relationship with a friend or other, and you always feel drained and “not quite right” or are left feeling used, abused or have a heavy negative cloud hanging around after you have seen this person? If you are the one always giving and never getting any thanks or thing back, then it is most definitely time to reassess this relationship.
I can help you with a one on one private session, or assist with a four week mentoring course. One on one are for one hour only.
I am offering 50% off for anyone who has seen me in the past and 25% off to new clients.
Why wait? Now is the perfect opportunity to shine up your vibe and ensure you have an awesome tribe around you too. Email me now!
Love and many blessings