In 2016 I stood up for my self and told my friend that I didn’t want her to be blunt and negative towards me, my family and every little imperfection she could seek out in me any longer.
I was hoping that by me opening up (after a 40-year friendship) it would give her a chance to acknowledge my story and perhaps mend it so our relationship could move on for another 40 years.
Unfortunately, she closed up and took it to heart. Funny how I have been copping the blunt and insensitive comments from her for 40 years, and when I finally speak up I’m the worst person in the world.
She turned my being brave and honest and allowing her space to improve our relationship into drama and back onto me which has quite possibly ruined a long standing friendship.
The question I ask you my fellow sisters is “Is it really worth the repercussions, if standing in your truth results in you looking like the bad guy and loosing a whole tribe of friends?”
I have asked my self this many times.
It took me ten years to work up the courage to speak up for my self, and I had considered all reactions before I did this. Though I didn’t expect so much pain and rejection.
I have come to the conclusion, that as living, breathing humans we must experience all kinds of emotions such as being happy, sad, excited, feeling nervous and having your heart feel pure joy and pure pain if we are to evolve and grow.
It is part of life as a human to feel these things, but if we can not live this life and feel these emotions without truth and loyalty to yourself then I believe we will become sick, spiteful, jealous, greedy, nasty, stern, cold, hard, rigid human beings.
I believe we must stand up for our truth no matter what the cost.
We must be certain of the ground that we stand on.
And we must only ever speak our truth from our hearts.
And what happens after that will be one of your greatest lessons in life.
I love my friends and I deeply miss them, but I am not happy to be treated with any less respect then I give them.
I’d love to hear from you, and how you deal with speaking your truth from your heart, or if this is something I can guide you through, learn more on my Mentoring page, and claim your complimentary discovery call.
Love and blessings Annie