Have you ever tried to drive your car just by looking in the rear view mirror? Or what about driving while looking at the sky? That's ridiculous and impossible, right? Sure, so why do we sometimes do these things with our lives?
Give yourself a minute to think, and then come up with an honest answer to this question: how much of my time do I spend thinking about the past and/or daydreaming about the future?
This is not to say that we shouldn't dream or plan ahead. Nor does it mean we can't enjoy remembering great times we've had, or learn from previous mistakes. What I'm talking about here is our tendency to hang on to stuff from the past or fret and worry about what might happen in the future. Neither of these pastimes is very positive, and in this article I'd like to explore some techniques for reducing these unproductive habits.
Let's begin with letting stuff go from our pasts. I like to use the analogy of walking down the road of life, and along the way we pick up and carry various things. Some are useful, and others are big, awkward, heavy or toxic packages that we struggle to drag along with us. We can actually choose to put some of these things down, and continue our journey with a lighter load.
Guilt, regret, anger, resentment and so on are some of the most corrosive emotions we can feel. In relation to things that have happened in the past, they are also completely useless, and cannot change what has already occurred. Most importantly, they take up a lot of brain space that we could otherwise use to enjoy the present and create a fabulous future.
Here are some simple ideas for letting this stuff go:
OK, now that we've let go of a whole lot of old garbage, we have space to create the future of our dreams. The trap to avoid here is thinking that something has to happen before we can be happy, slim, fit, successful, wealthy etc etc. You know the kind of thing: when I get a new car, then I'll be happy.....I'll start being more mindful of what I eat when I finish this project.....
Instead, we need to practice gratitude for where we are and what we have right now. This is one of the basics of moving forward with ease, and if we can be content in the present, we are better able to manifest the incredible things we desire in the future. Discontent is not conducive to creating positive outcomes.
The new year is a powerful time to take stock and define your goals. So now is a perfect time to do one or more of the following in preparation for this year of new beginnings:
These are only a few suggestions to make a start on the path to a more positive outlook, by freeing some brain space to live joyfully in the moment and create a magical future. Enjoy 2018 to the full!
Article by guest author Dallys Baker