When there is abuse there is so much pain, but most of it isn't even yours.
I need to be clear, I am not sticking up for the abuser here, though I do need to share with you this one thing.
An abuser is a person who is in deep mental distress, a mental and emotional crisis, and has a life numbing pain. This blocks their reality on what’s right and wrong and gives them the idea that what they are doing is ‘normal’. PIGS ASS! It is not normal.
They will have you believe that they are ‘in control’, ‘powerful’ and ‘sane’.....
When in fact they are the opposite to what they portray themselves to be.
They are nothing short of weak and out of control.
They are completely out of touch of their truth.
No person in their ‘right’ mind would ever consider harming or abusing another person, flat, final, finish!
When you are abused, you take on the abuser’s pain and own it as if it is your own.
We carry this around with us like a gaping wound, tirelessly applying band aid after band aid to trying to soothe it.
What you must know is that what this person has done to you is not your fault. What this person has or is doing to you is their issue. It is actually not about you and most certainly should not be your demise.
I once read ‘that if a man holds a gun to your face not to take it personally’. It’s the same thing.
The reason he has a gun to your face has nothing to with you, you didn't put it there, and you didn’t tell him to point it at you.
His pain and dysfunctionality of the life he has had up until the moment of him pointing the gun in your face is ALL of his baggage and shit!
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If you are working through issues like these, please contact me to discuss how I may be able to help.
Warmest Regards and Many Blessings