In a world of dog eat dog and man versus man, its any wonder that our men can feel they are under so much pressure to stand up infallibly, and constantly be ‘The Man’?
In my experience men quietly go about their emotional business and battle it out on their own. My question is ‘who set this up’? Who said that a man had to go quietly on their own, handling their emotional-status and covering their bad days, all the while being ‘Mr keep it all together, go to work , pay the bills, be strong for my family, don’t let anyone down’?
Perhaps it was a male-made stigma set up to protect the ego? Perhaps it was a necessity for the overall survival and balance of the household, I mean what household could handle both sexes having PMS all at the same time? In my house this would make for an extremely volatile cocktail of energetic dramas.
Anyhow, who's to say that men don’t have monthly emotional ups and downs, aren't we (both men and woman) predominately made up of water? Keeping in mind that the ‘monthly’ Moon cycles pull the oceans back and forth and control the tides on earth, and are known to have an effect on women's cycles and emotions. Then why can’t the moon have effect on men also?
We are all sharing this life together and most have equal responsibilities. It’s just that in this society it isn’t seen as so bad for a woman to ask for help, or fall into a crying heap at the end of a challenging week at work.
When do we allow our men to fall in to a heap at the end of hard week without calling it a break down?
As a mother, aunty, wife, niece and sister of a beautiful assortment of delightfully interesting, strong, sensitive, brilliant, soft, kind, gentle men, I am standing up right now for our men and holding my hand, heart and full support out for them.
We need to let our men know that we are here for them.
We strongly need to listen to them, and in my experience, when a man says its black and white, well honey, its black and white, not purple or pink or a shade of lavender.
Don’t complicate things. Just be there for him, listen to him and take interest in what makes him smile. Tell him he matters, and that you appreciate the wonderful work he does. Give him your time, your shoulder to lean on and your ear. You will then begin to crack open years of conditioning and hardening of one of our most valuable human gifts, our companions, our champions and our best mates.
Love and Blessings